Whether you’re single or in a committed relationship, there is some solid relationship advice for you to consider and possibly apply in future situations. We have compiled some of the most timeless advice from real women, throughout different stages of their life, to bring you some words of wisdom from life’s experiences on what you should and shouldn’t compromise on.
1. Don’t attempt to change your partner. If you love someone and they have flaws, either accept the flaws or choose to walk away gracefully. Trying to change any aspect of their personality almost never works and will leave you both feeling hurt.
2. If you do end up leaving your partner, burn all the bridges possible. That means cut ties; delete their number, remove them from social media platforms, and create some distance at least throughout the first period of your breakup. This will help clear your mind and focus on improving yourself, which trust us is much more beneficial than frantically stalking their last seen status (we’ve all done it). Save yourself the anxiety and move on freely.
3. Don’t ignore the red flags. If you see something that bothers you in your partner in the beginning of a relationship, you should be realistic and know that more often than not this characteristic will worsen after marriage or as your relationship progresses. Do not be blinded by young love and try to be as objective as possible when it comes to making such a huge life decision.
4. Don’t focus too much on your partner’s mistakes without looking at your own first. Remember, if you are having problems in your relationship more often than not there are at least two sides to the story. Communication is key at any relationship stage and seeing, admitting and working on your own faults as well are important to solving problems as they arise.
5. Get to know their family. If you think you will only have to interact with your husband/wife and can ignore their social circle after marriage, then you are so wrong. Marriage is like a merging of two families; each with different traditions, habits, and ways of life. It’s important to make sure that you are comfortable with their family or at least find a way to keep things civil.
6. It’s never too late to take control and decide if a relationship is toxic to your life. Whether it’s because you were childhood sweethearts, or because you already have kids together, or because your wedding is tomorrow; you can still say no to any relationship that is doing you more harm than good.
7. Spend some time apart.
8. Understand that there are different stages in a relationship and it is ok to accept that each phase comes with its own unique pros and cons. So, if he stops buying you flowers and surprising you under your house every morning he probably has not stopped loving you, the honeymoon phase is just over and real life and responsibilities have started to kick in. Your partner will show love differently and adapt depending on which stage of your life you’re both at, so learning to enjoy each stage without worrying too much about why they’ve stopped swooning you like when you first got together is important.
9. Your partner shouldn’t be your source of happiness. Of course, they should add value to your life and be an important part of it, but if something bad were to happen you should never let it break you. Have your own social circle, work, and hobbies. Sharing said hobbies and having interactions between your different social circles is important and a great way to bond, but always make sure you have your own life ambitions and goals.
10. Keep yourself as a priority. There is a very fine line between compromising in order to come to a middle ground where both you and your partner are happy and losing sight of your own happiness, goals, and sense of self. Take the time to take care of yourself and continue to grow and evolve in the ways you need, without interference or loss of motivation from your partner.
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