Raising a child in today’s world is a real challenge for parents. You need to monitor and care for their physical and emotional well-being, as well as their academics. You always find yourself wondering “are they doing well at school? Are they happy? Is there anything I can do to make the whole studying process easier for them?” amongst hundreds of other pressing questions.
With our partnership with MBIS, we wanted to offer parents with mind-easing solutions and a to-the-point guide on how parents can guide their kids through the learning process. We had a quick chit chat with renowned child psychologist Amina Diab about the best mindful tips parents can be advised to implement while supporting their children through their school years.
Always start with the easy questions first
When you’ve been studying with your kids for a while, you’ll have an idea of what topics they already know or feel more confident with, start with those. This is to give them the boost of confidence they need for the harder lessons, and they will not shy away from tackling even harder topics in future study sessions.
Use the “Sandwich Method”
When you’re guiding your kids with their studies, always use the sandwich method when giving feedback. First, you point out some of the things they got right, then you guide them through the ones they got wrong, and you end on a high note with more positive feedback. The idea is to facilitate as much as possible the learners’ job to get it right without feeling discouraged.
Let them choose when to study
Allow the child to choose beforehand (a day in advance) and make sure you remind them throughout the day if they still hadn’t allotted a study time. This is important to give them a sense of responsibility towards their study sessions. Make sure the chosen time is specific, for example, tomorrow between 5 and 6 pm, instead of tomorrow evening. If your child is still too young to tell time, you can relate it to ‘after a specific activity’ for example.
Study in Intervals
Splitting homework into intervals is a must to allow your kid a chance to take a break, refuel and rewind their energy button. When you have study sessions that are too long, your kid’s brain and yours will end up getting tired quicker, resulting in a less enthusiastic student and a more frustrated teacher.
Don’t be too hard on yourself
As important as it is for your kids to go into the top-grade schools and be the most successful people they can be, it is as equally important to make them feel that they did their best and that is all that is needed of them. If they do their best, they will always succeed in the best of ways. A lot of parents put too much pressure on themselves as well as their children to get top marks. This more often than not translates to them focusing too much on their test grades and not enough on their kid’s effort, which leaves the children beaten down.
To wrap up, it is of extreme importance to remember that your children, despite their young age, should be given room to grow through allowing them to be appropriately independent. Listen to their needs, allow them to express themselves, support their interests and don’t blight their creativity. Remember that you always do your best when it comes to your children, and one way or another they understand that. That being said, it’s always a great idea to broaden your spectrum and try new techniques when it comes to parenting, you might find something that works better than what you thought has worked before.