All too often, people think that achieving your goals requires specific results. They think of success as an end that can and should be attained and completed. Far from it. I personally have learnt it the hard way during my weight loss journey!
I was a girl who has always struggled with weight-loss but never lacked self-love nor confidence! A girl who always felt beautiful and always had something to offer rather than her looks. However, I still knew I would look better if I lost weight and start taking care of my body and my health. So I woke up one day and decided to get back on track after years of being a couch-potato!
And guess what? I worked hard and lost around 40 Kilos only by following a healthy plan.
But unfortunately for some reason I felt unmotivated and stopped working out without really watching what I was eating until I gained those extra 10-15 kilos back. That’s when I felt really insecure and I started doing it all wrong! I even started looking for approval for my weight gain. Yes that’s what insecurities can lead to! I just beg you to never go there.
I used to create a list of expectations for myself based on external things like losing weight, committing to a workout routine etc … and I would always end up disappointing myself because I tended to look at them as goals and not as a lifestyle!!
But this feeling did not last forever. I later started to replace those expectations by creating intentions based on how I feel! I started to look at everyday as a new day, a new dawn to reset and reconnect with what I want and need. Instead of aiming to lose 15 kilos, I aimed for general well-being, feeling good like I used to before! Because focusing on a number never gave me the space to notice if I actually felt better or if I was simply bashing myself into a “new” body and punishing myself if I didn’t get there.
What I’m trying to say here is that when we come from a place of hate or shame, we tend to make decisions that drive us further down that same path. But when we come from a place of love for ourselves, the opposite can happen.
Don’t hate and shame yourself into a “new you”, into a thinner body or a smaller size.
Trust me, I’ve tried to hate myself into happiness and it doesn’t work like that. Love the person you already are and the rest will follow. My goals at the moment are to get back to a steady workout routine and to push myself to get out of my comfort zone by trying new ways to move my body, simply because I feel great and motivated when I do so.
I also need to stop wishing to get back to my old, peaceful, “free from overthinking” self, be easier on myself, explain myself and care about what others think less, constantly improve and be dynamic, embrace it and shine bright.
If you want to be in the best shape of your life, then losing those extra kilos might be necessary. But the only way to reach that result is to fall in love with the process of eating healthy and exercising consistently. In fact, that just might make you happier as a person overall.
If you want to become significantly better at anything, you have to fall in love with the process of doing it. You have to fall in love with building the identity of someone who does the work, rather than merely dreaming about the results that you want.
In other words…
Fall in love with boredom. Fall in love with repetition and practice. Fall in love with the process of what you do and let the results take care of themselves!!
And never forget that you’ve got to find your strength in forgiving yourself and anybody who ever made you feel less than you really are, know that your truth cannot be taken from you. You’re always strong, still beautiful, still kind, and still giving.
Every hit, every scar, every mark, coming and going, is a part of your story and who you are now and will become!! Be proud of this strong beautiful body and yourself for going through it all and finding a way and the courage to love!!