Here’s a piece to get your deep thinking going.
We all want success. All sorts of it. We want to move to our favourite cities. We want to nurture healthy bodies and long happy relationships. loving close family units, but have you ever really stopped to think what is your role in achieving these goals? Have you ever laid out the skills and traits you need to have in order to be able to move forward in life? Here’s one I’ve learned : It’s Self-Accountability.
Self-Accountability is a skill most people lack. It’s one that I’ve learned to appreciate and practice day in and day out. Accountability is literally the seat of personal power. Only when we are able to be liable for our actions and the consequences of those actions will we be able to overcome whatever life throws our way. Blaming others is so easy but being able to stop in your tracks, reflect, and notice your faults is a skill to be mastered and nurtured.
Do you take responsibility for your decisions and actions?
Do you handle their consequences?
Are you able to identify your own shortcomings?
Its impossible to defer responsibility and move forward at the same time. It will only lead to stagnation. With this mindset, you will always be at the mercy of your external circumstances. You will blame the weather for missing your workout, the traffic for getting to your interview late. Blaming your parents for how you’ve turned out, literally anyone and anything for everything. You can submit yourself to so many external causes and reasons to blame for your current state, but that will take you nowhere good. Victimising yourself will only lead to living in a space of negativity and restriction. Recognising the issue, your part in it, and finding ways to handle it will then nurture abundance and success.
I’ve learned that as long as you are honest with yourself, and evaluate your actions. you’ll see your own progression and development. There’s no greater feeling of self-satisfaction than the one you get when you notice how far you’ve come, and how much you’ve grown. As long as I can take the time to recognise my mistakes and how to avoid them then I can overcome anything.
“Your life is your own, you are a first in the world, a unique event that has never occurred before, your circumstances and your story is yet to be written, you are the author of your own story, no one else” (Alan Watts).
So, take action:
- Recognise your drawbacks
- Recognise your abilities
- Ask for help when needed.
- Don’t dwell on the past.
- Move forward.
The Conscious Cairene