There is an Arabic version of this article!
As the ancient Japanese saying mentions: “Fall seven times, get up eight”!
Life is full of ups and downs, sadness, setbacks, challenges and much more all are part of it and this is the way it goes that is why we have to build our natural resilience that is skills and thinking tools that can help us through the toughest times.
Life is a roller coaster; sadness, setbacks, challenges, and many more obstacles, are all mandatory parts of life that no one can go without. Resilience, however, is a major key factor for happiness – it is indeed acquired through life practice.
A term “happy life” doesn’t refer to a life free of obstacles and difficulties; instead, it is the life equipped to face and deal with them.
Resilience is the ability Resilience is to bend when under pressure, not to break.
Being an emotionally resilient person does not necessarily mean feeling good all the time or never experiencing tough events coming our way; however, it is the ability to successfully cope or deal with the challenges life throws our way and recognizing when times are hard while intentionally focusing on what can we do, mend, or change.
When we choose to become aware and resilient emotionally, managing stress and recovering from difficulties become easier and more effective therefore the risk of becoming prone to depression and anxiety lowers.
We are all supposedly resilient by nature; however, practice is always the best way to yield impeccable results.
So, here are a few tips on how you can become more resilient.
1. Active Coping – There’s Always Something We Can Do About It
Active coping means to face our difficulties and focus on what we’re able to do or control, rather than passively coping which means feeling that there is nothing much for us to do, or that the situation is absolutely out of control.
Sometimes we unconsciously trap ourselves into thinking that we cannot do anything; instead, there’s always something you can do, even is it’s just prayer or meditation.
2. Be Optimistic – There’s Always a Full Half of the Cup to Look At
Maintaining a hopeful and optimistic attitude in life is the foundation of leading a successful and stress-free life.
Finding glimmers of light or seeing positive outcomes, instead of focusing only on difficulties, decreases the stress levels, illness, and depression.
3. Keep Laughing – Laughter Is the Best Medicine
A positive sense of humor is the best “fabric softener” in dark times.
Maintaining a positively humorous attitude helps to uplift our mood by releasing tension and reducing the negative impacts stressful situations have on us, which leads to making everything more bearable.
4. Stay Connected – Take All the Support You Can Get
Social support is very important when we’re faced with tough situations.
Knowing that there are people we can turn to when we need help is comforting, especially when dealing with the difficulties we suddenly find ourselves into.
Bonding with people we trust while passing through a rough patch is very useful in getting over the hardships of the situation, and becoming more positive and open to face life again.
5. Stay Flexible – the Only Constant in Life Is Change
We have to trust and accept the unchangeable situations as a part of living.
Being flexible to live’s tough events is very important and essential in overcoming them; this is how highly resilient individuals can adapt to the newness that comes with change and happily thrive.
6. Trust Yourself – It All Starts From Where You Stand
The most important factors to become more resilient are: having confidence and faith in our own abilities to overcome issues and successfully cope with stress.
always replace negative self-connotations (that little voice in your head), with positive ones.
For example, when you find you’re unable to manage in a seemingly “unmakeable”, repeat to yourself in your head “I will manage this. Yes, I can do it!”
7. Take Actions – Taking an Active Step Is the Only Way Out
Actively facing the issue by finding reasonable ways out is a lot more convenient than just sitting and waiting for the problem to be solved on its own.
Solutions will never come to us if we don’t seek them first, so waiting for the situation to “magically go away” on its own is just a waste of time in negativity.
Try to think creatively in finding a way out as a solution to the problem; after all the only one responsible for getting over your own issues is YOU!
Finally, life could be a pleasant journey that is definitely worth living no matter what we face or might be going through, we have to always remember to enjoy the ride!