I, for one, have never thought that there’s an actual solution to overcome overthinking.
I succumbed into my sleepless nights, which let to deteriorating my mood due to my very own thoughts which seemed so real until I wake up one day realizing that things are not as crucial as I made myself think they are.
Throughout my life coaching journey, I have found out that there are multiple ways to limit or refrain from overthinking from affecting life outcomes to result undesirably.
Also, after making my research, I surprisingly got able to connect all the facts I’ve learned about and situations I’ve lived into coming up with a pretty solid plan to quit overthinking and share all these results with through this article.
If you too are suffering from overthinking, staying up at night thinking about mother earth, and always caught up in your own head and thoughts even if you’re around people, these tips are for you.
1. Think About the Present
The fact is that right now, while you’re reading this sentence, you do not have any problem.
Right now, you’re most probably not struggling with reading or holding your phone or your laptop, right?
Ok. so, where is the problem?
The issues always appear when we start digging deep into our thoughts and add more thought into what’s going on with our lives, even if at the moment we’re really okay.
So, imagine if we spent the rest of your time thinking about the current moments, right now!? It will definitely affect the overall mood and deviate overthinking.
2. Quit the Assumptions
Overthinking is mainly built on creating scenarios.
I mean if we summed up what we’re thinking about while overthinking we’ll find out it all revolves around “What ifs”.
Sometimes we need to remind ourselves that there’s always a “Higher Divine Plan” we know nothing of. Not yet, at least!
Sometimes we fall into thinking that by overthinking we guarantee living life happily, while in fact, nothing in life is guaranteed (or is to be taken for granted).
So, living beneath the assumption of the worst, won’t actually get anyone anywhere.
Being stuck in assumptions will only prevent us from seeing the good in life, it may also lead to attracting unwanted situations by repetitive thoughts, inviting those events to your life. Or worse, taking actions based on assumptions can only be faulty most of the time if not all the time.
3. Controlling Everything Is Impossible
There’s a direct relationship between the urge of being in control, and/or perfectionism and overthinking.
I mean, what’s the worst that could happen if we went with the flow just a little bit?
By allowing the flow to guide us into the right direction of the Higher Divine Plan we unknowingly get benefits, such as:
- learning something new
- growing stronger
- developing a distinctively settled personality
These here are just a few of the benefits we can achieve by surrendering to the current of the flow, and honestly, it actually sounds great.
Also, we need to always remember and accept the fact that not everything can be controlled; however, some things are actually meant to be uncontrolled.
Especially when talking about situations including other people. Each one of us is born to be free, we need to all constantly remember that to keep our precious freedom intact, we need to respect other peoples’ freedom.
Also, surprises are one of the most tasteful spices of life, without the factor of surprise life would be bland.
So, regardless of how long it’s going to take and/or how much effort we’re going to invest in trying to control, we would not be able to fully change the outcomes as we please.
And as the old saying goes: “The Bigger The Risk, The Greater The Reward!”
4. Create a Gratitude List
What if we replaced our overthinking by stating what we are grateful for?
Surely, we all can find at least one thing you’re grateful for every day. It can be anything, from finding a favorite lost shirt again, to someone you hold dear to your heart or a new acquired personal quality.
So, let’s start investing more time in counting our blessings and everything we’re grateful for.
5. Think Bigger
Chunk up thought, avoid diving into details.
Attention to detail is the main route to overthinking. Sometimes we get drifted away by details to the point that we end up forgetting the main initial target to reach
We may want to start planning a vacation, but end up reliving last year’s vacation events. Or, another example could be in relationships, when we unintentionally pick on our partners, while if we chose to think above the detail, we would find out that both our intention and that of our partner are opting for reaching the same result.
6. Watch the Sequence
When we start paying attention to where we started and where we’re heading; we’ll be able to know the reason why we are overthinking, and this way we will also be able to reduce thinking.
Paying attention to the sequence of recurring thoughts is everything.
The moment we realize how our thoughts evolve in a certain way and finally put a finger on what truly triggers us, will be the same exact moment that we decide if we want to open up a whole new sequence of though or not.
Once we have our triggers and objectives clear we’ll know whether overthinking this specific idea is constructive or not.
Go ahead and share these useful tips with your friends and family. And stay tuned for more information to be shared in upcoming articles.